Totally non automotive questions.

MidoriMeadows · Post by **MidoriMeadows** » March 22nd, 2006, 10:13 pm

Of course it has to do with my love life.

Now I never ask what a guy has been up to as far as other women. I don't think it's my place to do so at this point in time. So what does it mean when a guy feels like he needs to explain a non event to me? He's one of my phone hotties so you know I'd never find out about it. Not like some nosy neighbor or something is going to tell me. He felt he had to explain something about nothing but coulda appeared to be something if anyone was watching. Does that even make sense? Does this mean he feels like he's supposed to answer to me? Does that mean I need to answer to him? Uhoh. Means no side trips in the near future. I wouldn't mind answering to him, just trying to figure out if I'm supposed to. He's got a horrible cold otherwise I'd just ask him. He's had too much shit going on and I don't feel like laying something strange on him at this point.

Shit, I'm just in a strange mood. Truck is at the shop. Blew something crucial on the way home and decided to pour antifreeze out. Luckily, it was right next to my mechanic so now it's sitting in his lot waiting to see how much it's going to cost. We think it's the water pump but praying for a hose clamp. I'm pretty sure it's not a hose since I checked those not long ago. So did Leon right before he left. I guess better now than next week on my way to my new job.

JR · Post by JR » March 22nd, 2006, 10:42 pm

Sharon,

Just take things one day at a time. No need to rush into things. There are things that one should never tell the other and there are things that one does not want to know.

I'll tell you about my love life. It involves first, my soul mate Jean, then my kids and grandkids, relatives, then my cats (Jean says I love my cats more than her at times), friends, cars, Crown Royal, long neck Bud, and a Marlboro red. See, that was easy. I try to live a simple life in a complicated world.

JR

Post by **Doc** » March 22nd, 2006, 11:09 pm

Sharon, I'm no one to ask about your situation, But i hope there is nothing serious wrong with your ride. Is it a Diesel (international)? My money is on the water pump..

I hope you service the cooling system annually, just drain the system and flush out with water, then fill with the proper coolant.

The best cure for problems is maintenance before a problem comes up to bite you in the arse!

MidoriMeadows · Post by **MidoriMeadows** » March 23rd, 2006, 12:24 am

Shilo thinks it's the water pump. I do keep up on my maintenance but the Ford is 6 yrs old. I don't think the water pump has ever been changed so it's probably due. Just happening at a painful time, is there ever any other? Yeah, it's an international diesel.

JR. I don't ask him. It's not my place at this time. He's the one who feels like he needs to explain. What happened was a series of circumstances that involved a lost reservation amongst some other things which ended up with him having to share a room with his daughter and the babysitter. Babysitter is kid of old friend and he said that would just be wrong. I guess it just seems like he didn't ever have to explain that, I never asked, but he seemed really concerned that I not be upset by it. He wanted to make sure I knew that nothing happened.

So that brought to mind that if he thinks he needs to tell me what he didn't do with the babysitter then maybe he expects me to tell him what I do or don't do with other people such as phone hottie #2 which he knows nothing about. Not his business anymore than it's my bus. what he does with babysitter. I'd be quite happy to wait out this custody issue though if I know that 's what he wants. I think he's worth waitin on. Enough so that I'd turn off phone hottie #2 and #4.

And no, at this point I don't think it's settling on just anything. If I was willing to just settle phone hottie #4 would marry me in a heartbeat and always be nice. I just don't think I feel that way about him. I really like him, just not like that. I think that would be settling. #2 would be fun. I just see issues in the future that would be bad, mostly I think in 10 years he'll want to have kids and I'll be way beyond being able to. While at this time he says that he doesn't want any, I think he will later. He loves kids. He's just a baby though and things change. Don't think he'll want to just have grandkids. That would be settling for him. Maybe I'm wrong. I know people who never really want their own kids. We'll see. Just thought he'd be a lot of fun while phone hottie #3 was dealing with legal stuff. But you know, I'd rather just wait if that's what he wants. It's so hard to know when you can't actually meet eachother. I just don't want to be the reason he doesn't get custody. It's an ugly battle. He's taken care of her since she was born. He's a really good dad.

Yeah, I'm really lonely. I'll get over it. I've dealt with it most of my life, what's a few more months, or years.

markn · Post by **markn** » March 23rd, 2006, 2:23 pm

Sharon, i hope u meet someone close, its hard enough and over the phone makes it alot harder. i still say when u least expect it ,u will find someone.
all this thinking and worring is going to drive u crazy!!!!Cant u go out with the girls to a local place??? even though u dont like bars, there are good guys in bars............

RS69cam777 · Post by **RS69cam777** » March 23rd, 2006, 6:11 pm

Just make sure his pic is not on the FBI most wanted, or in the post office.

MidoriMeadows · Post by **MidoriMeadows** » March 23rd, 2006, 11:19 pm

I have very few friends. Since I've lived here I've done nothing but work. My best friend died last year. All of my friends are married and most don't go out without their husbands. So I sit around a bar with a bunch of couples which sometimes is fine.

I know you guys get sick of listening to me sometimes. Still curious about why he felt he had to tell me what he was doing.

Yeah, it sucks. I rarely meet single men. The phone thing sucks. I think I do that cause I have such defective relationships.

Post by **Doc** » March 24th, 2006, 8:42 am

Are we having a pity party here??

Like i have urged you before, be thankful for what you have.. and that you have your health to be able to enjoy it with.. Life is never easy! Or at least for me anyway..

I am slowly digging myself out of a financial hole that i dug for myself putting all my eggs in the eBasket! And that is nobodies fault but mine. I believed in the system thinking it was my future. Oh well..

Guess i am going to cancel my toll free number, thought it would be also useful for friends to contact me if needed, since it seems all the ones i think of as Friends are several states away. Anyway.. Got to get ready for work, I sold 1 yesterday, and have 2 others that are pending financing, Have 3 others that are supposed to come in today. So it should be a productive day!

Relationships Suck! I'd rather have the $$$!!

markn · Post by **markn** » March 24th, 2006, 11:58 am

OK Sharon, here is a idea, sitting with married couples in the same bar might not be the way to go. Try a new place when a big sporting event is going on. its march madness !!!! collage basketball, maybe u have to go to the next town,get a room, take a friend, everybody wants to get away for a day,go on a sat.
He told u that for a reason, he was felling guilty??? i know nothing happened, did he wish something did??? all this phone stuff will make u crazy, its hard enough in person in a new relashinship to fiqure out what someone means sometime!!!!!!!!!!!

MidoriMeadows · Post by **MidoriMeadows** » March 24th, 2006, 9:04 pm

He says he tells me everything. He says he doesn't have any expectation that I tell him everything. OK, that didn't accomplish much. He just found out his dad has some kind of heart problem. He's sick. He's still got the stuff going on with ex and custody. He says he doesn't know what he wants. I don't blame him, it's been a rough year for him. Business stinks too.

I don't pick up guys. That's why it's so bad. I won't go into a bar and pick some guy up. It generally takes me a year or so to decide I even want to go out with a guy much less sleep with him. I think I'll explode if I have to wait that long. If I went to Portland I don't think I would have a problem finding someone ready willing and able. Just don't want it that way.

Yes, I'm sorta having a pity party. My sex life sucks. More or less has for the last 20 some years. That few month interlude that was good just woke everything up that went to sleep a long time ago. Woulda been better if it just stayed asleep. I'll be better in a few months. Everything will go back to sleep and I'll become an old spinster. Maybe if I work enough I'll quit caring.

Good for you Doc. Sounds like a productive day for you. Yeah, maybe money is better than sex.

I know I have it pretty good. New job starts on Mon. Somehow I have to get myself to work at 9:30! Hey, that's when the guy training me is starting his day. Big girl is doing better now that some stuff with her dad is out in the open. Baby just does a little better every day. I even saw a little sun today.

JR · Post by JR » March 25th, 2006, 12:50 am

Sharon, you need to stay away from them guys that are carrying around a lot of excess baggage. Take your time, don't rush, things will come around.

I work with a lot of single guys, you want me to pass your picture around? I wouldn't do that to you, but seriously, we have a lot of really nice single guys in our group. They are construction workers, been working lots of overtime, looking for a good woman to get aquainted with. Then there are the engineering group, lots of single guys too, but the single ones are real nerdy. They are scared of women. Got one engineer that has been on site for many years and just came back to our area. He's 50, single and still lives with parents. Same goes for the women. We hear from both sides that they would like to date certain people but are afraid to ask. We just tell them to go for it, otherwise don't complain.

When you start your job, tell us how you like it after a few days. I might get a couple of months off from work for the summer. Kick back, collect my unemployment benefits, drink lots of Crown, take some trips, sleep in, or do whatever I feel like doing. Then should go back in September or October. Or they could ship my ass down south, Europe, Africa, Iraq, Afganistan, of some other exotic place. Think this phase of work will be done by June.

JR

MidoriMeadows · Post by **MidoriMeadows** » March 25th, 2006, 1:19 am

Yeah, I really need a guy who lives with mommy.

I still think I do this cause I have such defective relationships that it's easier to have a pseudo relationship. If it turns out I don't like them they're far away and I don't have to see them at the grocery store. A lot of it is cause I don't go anywhere. If I don't meet them in the course of my life then I don't meet them. Notice that these guys are all guys I had to meet on the phone while I was working.

Who knows, maybe my mechanic has a single big brother. He's always happy to see me (not just cause I pay my bill, at least I don't think that's it) and is really a neat (married) guy. Not lechy happy, just cause he seems to think I'm cheerful or something. He also knows I'm probably single since I met him cause of Leon and he knows Leon left since all my auto stuff there was in Leon's name.

I know eventually I'll meet someone. Just lonely.

Arkie would like the guy who's training me, he has a Nomad parked out front.

Well in one of your trips head down this way and have a drink with me.

MidoriMeadows · Post by **MidoriMeadows** » March 26th, 2006, 7:34 pm

Ya'll will be proud of me. I actually went somewhere just for the hell of it. A friend called last night to see if I wanted to go out to lunch. I actually stopped working and went. He's married and we had 7 kids in tow and went to his wife's work but it was still an excursion out. I did tell him I'm lonely. Who knows, maybe he works with someone decent. He works at one of the biggest employers in the county so there's always the possibility that there's actually someone decent who'll actually be employed!

markn · Post by **markn** » March 26th, 2006, 8:15 pm

YES, good for u, thats how u meet someone,everybody knows someone who is a good person and not involved with someone!!!!!

Post by **Doc** » March 26th, 2006, 8:22 pm

She is one special Lady..

I just hope Mr right comes along for her! It's the ones that are special that always have a hard time finding the right mate..

MidoriMeadows · Post by **MidoriMeadows** » March 26th, 2006, 8:39 pm

I'm probably just too damn picky. Then I get lonely and settle for a slug. I refuse to do that this time. Geez, I guess I'll be lonely for a while.

Post by **Doc** » March 26th, 2006, 8:52 pm

I'm probably just too damn picky. Then I get lonely and settle for a slug.

Hey.. I know that feeling.. (sigh)

RS69cam777 · Post by **RS69cam777** » March 26th, 2006, 10:04 pm

he he Doc best hope mrs Doc never signs on or he may get a slug up side the head

dixie · Post by **dixie** » March 26th, 2006, 10:15 pm

OUCH (slug upside the head)

sigh yall must have some real love life problems!!
where is Ann Landers when you need her?

hehe

MidoriMeadows · Post by **MidoriMeadows** » March 27th, 2006, 10:20 am

I don't have a love life, hence no problems.

MidoriMeadows · Post by **MidoriMeadows** » March 27th, 2006, 10:46 pm

My first day went really well. I understood everything he was showing me. It's all stuff I've done before so that's good. What I need to learn is just the routine stuff like writing the reports. They go faster as you get better since you'll start to memorize a lot of stuff. For now, I'll have to look a lot of the numbers up.

I guess the biggest reason they have problems finding people is it's hard to find the right combination of skills. A lot of the people who do well with the paperwork don't have the personality to deal with people. If they can deal with people, a lot of times they don't have the self discipline to get the work done since you don't sit in an office with supervisors. For me, that's easy cause I've been self employed where I've had to worry about finding products, finding customers, advertising, taxes, laws etc. I don't have to concern my self with a lot of that. They send me a list, I set an appt. They refuse to be audited their insurance co. will cancel them or jack the rates. They get really cooperative after that. I just have to attempt to set the appt which all told you're talking 15 minutes at worst. So it's like being self employed without a lot of the hassle. My trainer is the guy who recruited me and we get along well so it's enjoyable driving around with him and having him tell me stuff.

Big girl's power steering pump is nearly dead. Hopefully it will make it to the shop tomorrow. I dont' have time to mess with it and have the truck down til next weekend.

Better go get some work done.

JR · Post by JR » March 27th, 2006, 11:01 pm

Good luck with your job! Sounds like it will go well for you.

JR

dixie · Post by **dixie** » March 28th, 2006, 8:50 pm

Sharon, glad you like your new job!!

Im self employed and have to deal with all old people. I dont think my people skills are going to last much longer. Some of these yankees really are getting on my nerves. Why do they have to whine all the time??
I must say there are a few that are real nice.

Post by **Doc** » March 28th, 2006, 9:07 pm

Just tell them, We don't give a damd how you do it up north!

If it's so great up north.. Why are you wasting time telling me?? Start Packing..

Happiness is a Canadian headed home.. With a New Yorker under each arm..

JR · Post by JR » March 28th, 2006, 11:41 pm

Now you Johnny Rebs should explain the definition of a yankee. My definition of a yankee is anyone that lives above the Mason-Dixon line and east of the Mississippi.

Now I may live up North, but it's the Pacific Northwest. I'm still trying to figure out how Ohio, Illinois, Indiana, and other nearby states got the name of mid-west states. Hell, there aint nothing west about them. I've been there, lived there for a short time, I'd say it's Yankee territory.

JR